Berbice woman scared of abusive lover, haunted by threat to her life
While mothers will be celebrating Mother’s Day in the company of loved ones, one mother would
be afraid because she anticipates the execution of a death threat on her life by the man with whom she shared a relationship.
Donetta Sibdhannie, 37, of Number Four Village, West Coast Berbice, says she is being threatened and abused by her 25- year- old lover (name given) of Rosignol Village.
The relationship which started four years ago is now riddled with daily abuses of various sorts. Sibdhannie says that she is suffering. She stated, too, that she is not getting much attention from the law enforcement officials at Blairmont and Fort Wellington Police Stations. She is now living a life of constant fear.
She noted that she ended the relationship with the individual a few months ago and he became dissatisfied with the move, and has become very abusive since.
The woman said that three Sundays ago “he came home and said that some girl told him that I [Donetta] called her on her phone and said I cussed her up”.
Sibdhannie denied doing that and the man, she said, became abusive. “He started to cuff me up in my head– he gave me three cuffs in my head. I went to Blairmont Station and made a report and they told me they will locate him– Two weeks after, nothing of the sort, and I ain’t able running, running at the station”.
The woman is fed up of this since the man would normally hear that she visited a station and would abuse her even more.
Sibdhannie, who is a businesswoman, made a CD Cart to sell compact discs for the man “and it cost me $130,000”. She said that the man later sold the cart without her knowledge. Later that night, she decided to take all of his clothes to his mother’s home.
“I didn’t stay in my house anymore because I am scared– he always threatening me, telling me if I throw his clothes out again, he will beat me bad and that he went to jail already just for slapping me but this time it would be worse”.
“So I decided to run away”, she said.
Last Monday, upon returning to her home, Sibdhannie found the entire house ransacked. It had been broken into. Her money and important documents were all gone. But she had another surprise; the man was waiting for her in the house.
“I was trying to be nice but he wasn’t nice to me– he was threatening me, and I was there just begging, trying to avoid all these things; he was in a rage.”
The man then locked her up in the bedroom and took away her cell phone “and I was there– just trying to be nice”. He subsequently left and she was able to open the locked door and get out of the house.
On Tuesday, she alleged that he did the same thing, “locked me up in the house– took away my phone and he slapped me to the wall and these kinds of things”. She later reported the matter to the Fort Wellington Police Station, “so I told the officer and he told me not to go back home and in the night, that they will get the patrol vehicle to pick him up.”
She followed orders and stayed by her mother. On Wednesday morning, she returned home at 10:00 hrs to go to church. “When I thought there was nobody in the house, he was there and he snatched me up and choked me– he told me ‘you– you gotta dead– before long, I gotta kill you”.
The woman called back the station and asked for a follow- up on the matter.
On Thursday evening she called the station to come and pick him up since he was in the house, “bullying me and took away my house door key.
“When he did that I hid and called the police and the Corporal in charge told me a patrol pick-up will be here in an hour’s time”.
Sibdhannie waited and waited while the man was in the home all the time. She waited for an hour “and they did not come– I sit outside and waited– no vehicle did come”.
“I scared to go to any one of the police stations right now; I don’t want to go for anybody to see me and tell him I went to the station”.
“He torments me and keeps threatening me and I am very much scared for my life so I just have to take things easy and cool– I know what type of person he is”. Sibdhannie is scared for her life because when the man sees this report in the media, he will become even more upset but she is hoping the authorities will nab him before he gets to her, so she can spend a peaceful Mother’s Day on Sunday.
“Right now I need him out of my house and out of my life, because I am very much scared”. Sibdhannie is a mother of three and keeps her whereabouts unknown. She is living a life on the run and watching her movements very carefully.
The man, she said, used to beat her up badly in the past, “most times in my stomach– places you would not see– One time, September 2011, he was sentenced to six weeks in jail for hitting me”. The sentence was reduced to a month and he was ordered to seek counseling, which he never did.
“My heart and my mind are out of the relationship but he is not taking let- go because he said only death can separate us and I am scared”.